Tom Uptain - Poontain

I am Tom's Mom and oh how I know you are missing him in pal talk. That was his greatest joy. I miss him so much and thank all of you for your love for him. I have a hole in my heart and don't know how I will ever fill this deep void. He was a special person in his own way. He was loved by all his family. I know he was special to a lot of you. Thank you for the memory of him

In Memory of Poontain

Poon my friend you made me smile
Even though I hadn't see you in a while
In my heart I hope you knew
The spot I held only for you

The mold was broken when god made you
Who knew he'd take you way to soon
Like all the rest of our musician friends
Who have left us to go on to better things

Fly with the angels my dear poon
One day we'll jam who knows how soon
You made me smile, you made me laugh
I will hold our memories on your behalf

It saddened me to hear that you had gone
But you lived life like playing a song
You rocked on out in a your pooner way
I will cherish our times until my day

We will all miss you poon, may you rest in peace

NANCE

POON,
What can I say; when Poon and I became friends he was dreadfully lonely and missing Thann we had met before Thanatos passed away but honestly became friends after. partly because he and I just missed Thann. He would always say… he would make me a back track or we should write a song. Poon seemed to want a princess someone to love and be loved for him self. He told me he still spoke to his x and they had lunch.

He was always sending me messages that I was doing great. Supportive. He never skipped a beat always the same. I thought he was only sending me encouragement IM's helping me learn new guitar stuff playing these wild riffs....till after he died and then I realized he was the pal-talk IM cheerleader.

I hated him drinking because I hoped he could stop. It seems like a few times he tried to stay sober and he would let me know but it wasn’t long. also because then he couldn’t type. And we would have to talk on voice or he would voice and I would type. He didn’t mind saying what was on his mind to whoever he wanted.

You either loved him or didn’t. I loved him like a brother no matter what I'm sure he loved me... he was really a gentile soul under it all. When he introduced me to Sasha. I could hear in his voice he was happy. I am really glad he found her it makes me smile to know he knew her true love and acceptance.

To love and be loved is all we really want isn’t it.
love yah Poon, your friend deb

Tom was with us until the tenth day of March 2008. His musical talent, humor, and generous spirit will be greatly missed.

All who knew him have shown their respect, love, and regret. Our hearts go out to his family and also to our wonderful friend, Sasha, who held Tom so close to her heart that all knew and were happy for their love. Tom told everyone of his love for Sasha, so our hearts go out to you, Sasha, for your loss, also.

On March 10 a room in Paltalk was dedicated to the memory of Poontain. Many people came to share their sadness and express their own fondness for Tom. Over sixty people were there for close to four hours playing his music and telling stories of how they had met Tom and how he had given such a complete, consistent message of his love for music.

Tom Uptain (Poontain)

This is for Tom's friends who have all been so kind since this happened. I will tell you about Tom. Where do I start??? In Paltalk our love of music brought Tom and me together right away when Glowing_Moon introduced us. Love ya Deb!!!

Tom is the most Generous, Loyal, Honest, and Loving Man I have ever met. And did I say Talented??? …(laughing here). If Tom were here he would make me say "Talented"!!! He was always making me laugh and loving me like no one ever has.

I traveled 11,500 miles from Australia just to be with him to see if this attraction was what I thought and felt, and guess what??? Our plan was for me to return in May of this year. I applied to the American Embassy for a 12 month Visa, which was granted. Then, Two Days after that I had a phone call from his family asking me to come to America to be by his side.

Tom was in the hospital with pneumonia and other complications. It was critical. I stood beside his bed for 3 days massaging his fingers, making sure they would still move so he could play his guitar when he woke up!!! He never awakened.

He was peaceful. I was holding his hand when his heart stopped beating. If I could have, there was nothing, absolutely nothing I would have changed about Tom, except for two things….his drinking and smoking.

He tried to stop I know, I have seen the proof of how he tried, here in his home, not that he would ever admit it. Those things took him away from us.

There were so many more songs we would have enjoyed hearing him play.

Roll Tide Roll! He was always getting me to say that, It was for his favourite football team, Alabama,

I love YOU Tom, Sasha XXX

[from Jerah Vann, Argo, Alabama, US]

My Name is Jerah I am 22 and I am Tom's youngest neice. He is truly missed through the hearts of our family. It all happened so quick and so suddenly that it was definitely a shock. I hope that in my heart tom could hear all of us talking to him when he was in the hospital because we all told him we loved him and wanted him to pull through it.

I think it hurt more to know that he was so talented and was trying so hard to put his music out there and his talents are not something you can just pass along. They are a gift from God and an amazing way of expressing yourself, your love, and your mind. I never knew how talented my uncle really was til after he had passed. I lived in Chicago for 12 years and I only got to see him once or twice a year.

I have come to realize after spending so much time with sasha that me and him were a lot alike. I have his attitude and I have his love for music. No matter what I do I am always turning something into music and singing about it. I wish I could've been able to spend more time with him and to share our music together. I hope to carry it on in my family and I want to say that I am so thankful for meeting sasha. She actually changed my life and showed me that there are so many ways to express your talent.

I miss you Uncle Tom and it tears me up inside that I will never be able to work with you but Please keep looking down on me and help to push me through this so that I can carry on your love for music and my love for music!

Love u and miss u!
Jerah

[from Tom's neighbor on the lake]
I just wanted to say what a good friend and all around good person Tom was. He was always willing to help or share in any way.

We were neighbors and friends for just over twelve years so I know how important all his Paltalk musician friends were to him. You were all an important part of his life as he was a musician first and anything else, second.

Now, even though we might not all know each other, we all share this sense of loss over our friend. I do especially feel so sorry for Sasha too as she lost him so soon after having found him, how unfair can life possibly be. At least I know he was very happy at the prospect of having found someone to share the remainder of his life with, noone had any idea that time was so short.

Personally, it's a big void for me now to look across the lake at his house sitting there empty and quiet and dark after all these years. I hate it. I'm attaching a pic or two I took from his house. One is looking over his shoulder as he was taking a pic and the other is just the view across the lake, toward my house, from his door. As much as he liked music, he liked his place out here in the woods on the lake almost as much as anything else. I'll also include a pic of his place I made on the day he died.

Best wishes to all of you, his friends.

And Roll Tide, Tom.........

Mike Treadwell

Visitor Rememberances

Email your rememberance to poontain@livingroom-memories.com

[from blueee_3_3 to Poontain]

Poontain walkthis way and the other hiding nicks I forgotten that he try to tick me with but could never lie and always told me who he was.

Poon was amazing artist I love how he played so freely always taking Tex and adding it into his song. He always made me feel special he was kind and honest to me. He said it like it was no running around the bush and I so respected that. I remember the last time we were in the room together it was Saturday or Sunday a week before he died .he play for very long time he talked on the mic a lot and even was typing in tex

He said blue listen this ones for you .I expected some kind of love song ha ha or at lest something about oh never mind lol. And he sang a song about the dog I baby-sit he always called her old yellow he loved it when I cam and show him old yellow she is yellow lab he adored her

I told him I had resentment that he was dropping my knee for a dog

He laughed saying well maybe then paused said nope-old yellow had his heart

I remember him telling people he loved them like him troubie they had great time in room that day It was like he knew it be last time he seen us he joked had fun talk about saha and how he loved her You could hear the happiness in his voice as he talked and sang

I am really glad I got to be part of that day in pal

pooner was real he was honest and told it like it was he never pull no punches think that’s what Iwill miss most about tom was his pure honesty he never try impressing anyone he was just himself and that was always the fresh air for me

My dad passed the same day as pooner only different year and that help me understand pooner I am so glad he found the one thing he looked for all the time I knew him. Love he found it in Sasha some say it bitter sweet I agree but what if he never found her he was happy and that’s very nice note to end this on he was happy.

Fly high butterfly

Will miss you but you will always have piece my heart

love blueeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

psttttttt he want me say fook but I told him no smile one thing that brag me and tom together was that 4 letter word I will so miss his sprit we had lot of fun